Whenever in an argument whether it’s online or in real life and it got out of hand, the people who argue with me, insult me, never EVER apologize to me. If I want to end it they expect me to always be the one apologize first and I do not see why I have to. I am not the one that blew things way out of proportion. They did, and they should be the ones to apologize to me. However, I never get an apology so I eventually learn to ignore them.
If a person meant so much to me like Heart Breaker did, I will be the one to apologize even if I do not have to. If a person does not mean much to me, then I will not. He never apologized to me, but he did say he was sorry whenever he could not get back to me right away. As far as how I felt was concerned, he never said, “I’m sorry I mislead you the entire year, I just did not know how to tell you I was gay in the beginning and I let it drag on and I know it was my fault for not telling you in the beginning.” I never heard that. Instead, he does not want to be friends with me anymore because I “offended” him. Even my roommates think he just does not know how to apologize to me.
I forgave him even though he knows my streak with men is terrible he still broke my heart. I only know a handful of people who are readily and willing to admit they have done wrong and they know they overstepped their boundaries.
My roommates get recognition, especially “Jared.” I call him Jared because he eats so many Subways a day. One time they had a huge misunderstanding with me and as soon as I got back he had apologized in accusing me of something I did not do.
Instead of being the bigger person, coming up to me and apologizing for causing a scene in public, the bartender tells me that the only way she can bar the person permanently who attacked me is if I stopped messaging them online. REALLY? After all this time they still act like pathetic victims when they brought everything upon themselves.
Even in the ugly fat heifer’s statuses she would write, Her friends attacking me out of nowhere were the result of me “talking shit” about her mom on her blog. I said no you idiot. YOU are suffering the consequences of making up rumors about me and of course I am going to blast your inbox when you get your dirty friends to fight your own battles while you have me on block. I’m glad she knew enough when to take down that status, although it should not have been written in the first place.
I definitely said the only reason I was messaging them was because they were still talking and writing about me. Otherwise, I would have no reason to contact people like that. I don’t hang out with people like that. Even the bartender knew that this was not my doing. I don’t know who they were trying to manipulate. They can manipulate themselves and their own naive friends, but everyone else with a brain is smart enough to know who caused what.
If her friend really wants to come back to that bar, I would let her if she stood up there where the microphone is, and yelled out a public apology for causing so much trouble all these years for everyone and saying bad things about someone she doesn’t know at all. It’s easier said than done to stop letting something like this bother me when I ended a 23-year friendship over this garbage. Would it honestly kill someone who knows she is in the wrong to say, “I’m sorry?”
Instead of saying, “I’m sorry for being such a bad friend, not being there for you when you were there for me,” this is what I get: I said what if I had let her psycho baboon friend physically harm me like they wanted, would you still be “nice” to her then?
If it bothers you that much that I am friends with her online then delete me.
I mean, I shouldn’t have to go to her page and see the hater act like they are friends online when they don’t even talk outside of Facebook. She knows how much I despise that person making up rumors about me and yet, would be friendly to someone who is bad mouthing me hard core. I don’t get it. Does she think that’s going to help diffuse the situation on my end? I wanted that nasty person out of my life completely and knowing that nasty person is still lingering around on someone’s page I keep in touch with, was not doing anything positive. It’s not like she had any attachments to her. They didn’t go to college together, she only knows her because of that person bothering me.
That’s all that I got after I put my life out on the line for her when someone threatened her.
When someone threatened me for no good reason, she stood idly by and kept telling me she didn’t want to get involved that this was not her concern. She kept blaming me, saying this was my drama, that if I hadn’t contacted them two months ago, none of this would have happened now and we would still be friends. It’s one thing to not get involved in public, but another to blame me when no one else around. I’m not going to lie, that I did not help any by keeping this going, but to blame this solely on me, though, is far too ridiculous.
No, children avoid situations instead of talking about it. Adults confront the issues at hand.
It’s like she wanted to have her cake and eat it, too by not talking about that heifer, she could still be friends with me and be civil with them.
She kept saying it’s all my fault we had it resolved. Not at all. With those people who have nothing better to do than to bring down others, it’s never over with them. If they had never started attacking me out of nowhere 4 to 5 years ago when this first began, I never would have even known who they were in the first place. I was minding my own business, doing my own thing, and these people just came out of nowhere and started to bad mouth me for no good reason.
I said what goes on in her mind when she reads the statuses of my hater bad mouthing me when she knows that what that person says on her statuses is not true at all? Normally, I don’t care what someone who doesn’t know me says, but this dirty person has a shameless history and has the nerve to try to act like I’m the “bad guy” gossiping to all her friends on her statuses telling lies and people who don’t know any better actually like her garbage talk about me on her statuses when I will never do anything as horrible as this nasty person has done.
I kept asking her what is the big damn deal to still keep that troll on her list? It’s not like that person is an outstanding character. Why be civil with her at all? The troll disrespects other people’s relationships, other people, and even more herself, and even more her own friends who are still naive enough to defend her after. Why the need to be nice to someone like that “online” as well? This is the one time that I will compare myself to someone else in saying why does this even need to be an issue on who should be kept and who shouldn’t when she’s known me since we were three and I have much better morals and a conscience than this person?
Apologies mean a lot to me. I do not know about anyone else. It shows that the person recognizes they were out of line and are really trying to better the situation. What I cannot stand though are fake apologies.
For example, the heifer did apologize to me a year or two ago, but then she started beef with other people. Apologizing to me does not mean you can go back to arguing with other people. You have to learn from it and treat everyone else better, not just me.
When Clueless apologized to me and my roommates for using us, I did not buy it because she did not change her behavior. She only said words that she knew people wanted to hear but did not mean it.
I will apologize if I know I am the one to be out of line, but if I am not, I do not see why I have to. I am TIRED of being the bigger person in every single thing that happens. I truly am. For once other than my genuine roommates, I would like someone to sincerely apologize who were out of line with me. Instead, I get silence and they continue to act the same way.
I know with some disorders, people lack empathy. If some were from Xanga, you would know about that one poster with Asperber’s or autism I forget which one he has, who thinks life is meaningless. He obviously made a few friends online, so he knows what some empathy is, but he just feels like being an ass to everyone else for no good reason. I personally know someone who has that disorder as well who we hang out with, but he is not an ass to me nor my roommates.