People often wonder why I don’t have many friends. It’s not because there’s “something wrong with me.” It’s because I used to be a people person but then people and their lies/unfaithfulness happened. People didn’t want to get to know a person. I had a discussion about this with some others a long time ago who have experienced what I went through how they say they try to make friends but people won’t get to know them.
Today a friend asked me in person who isn’t much of a computer person, “Why do you do that Internet dating/friendship thing?”
I say, “Because people in person think they know someone in five seconds and don’t talk to people anymore or they think they know people through gossip.” Granted, if someone is being a douche to you in the first five seconds they meet you, you could probably tell a lot about their character anyway. When someone is being nice trying to get to know you and you still don’t get to know, that’s not that person’s fault. I’m not afraid to approach someone, not afraid to ask a guy out on a date, not afraid to start a friendship. Not afraid to befriend my neighbors. What I’m afraid of is are people showing their true colors or putting on a front! There’s nothing wrong with dating/making friends on the Internet, as long as they intend to meet someone in person and/or keep in touch. I would find it weird if someone’s friends were only online.
I know what they mean. Hey, it’s really people’s losses because for the ones that did take the time to get to know me and are on my good side, they only have good things to say.
I don’t want to get told all the time that not too many people think like me. That’s a bad thing, then! While they do compliment my good conscience they should say more people think like me! It’s rather sad we live in a world where we constantly have to watch our backs, waiting for a person to turn on you when they’re supposed to be your friend. I have switched social circles quite a few times until I finally found my group! I still kept some friends from back in the day who know what it means to be a good friend, but not very many. It really shouldn’t be like that. You know what’s sad? If I ever have a wedding how many people are going to attend that has known me since I was a tot? Maybe one or two people.
It’s not because people’s interests have changed. I’ve seen many people say very few people know what it means to be a real friend nowadays anymore and this is entirely true. There are hardly any “Ride or Die” friends since childhood anymore. I see people on Facebook often putting quotes up saying, “It’s hard to tell who your enemies are when they’re also your friends” and things like that.
I don’t want to have the mindset that I should keep my circle small. I want to be able to talk with people who are on the same page as me and not have to worry about them flaking out on me. Everybody’s got their own lives to live doesn’t mean people have to be a bitch about being busy and not making time for people who are their friends because when they need someone to turn to in the end, people might not be there!
For my readers who are here for my writings, I do appreciate that very much! Hopefully, for the nosy haters who have been lurking my page, they have found something better to do since they’re obviously not here for my insightful posts and they don’t comprehend my messages. You say you want someone to stop posting at your stupid forum, why do you keep checking up on someone? People are weird! Any “lawyer” who believes these freak shows are being bothered when they are going to someone’s page who couldn’t care less about them is a chump.