Charley was the last man I talked to in my hometown before I gave up on my state and started to look elsewhere. He wasn’t like any of the other men I talked to before him. The whole reason why I liked him in the first place was because at such a young age 21-years-old, he was already working 12-hour shifts everyday, going to college on top of that. He honestly makes me wonder what the hell I did at 21-years-old. I’m not sure how much he relied on his parents and his wife’s parents for support, but he himself, has a decent paying job where I met him at to take care of his kids on his own. We don’t work together anymore. I found another job. Charley makes my 5-year fling with an “ex,” he makes my “ex” look so much like a scrub, and my “ex” is 28-years-old.
All I did at 21-years-old was live in the dorms and finish college, barely work part-time and I have no children. I didn’t think he’d have time for anything else then I find out he has two small children. At the time I was unsure if he was still with the mother of his children. I was willing to let my usual deal breaker of not hanging out with a man who has children slide. It’s really not that I’m insecure of his history with what would have been his ex. I’d just rather not talk to her, not see her. And here in my hometown, some bitches actually want to start drama with a girlfriend/wife when I’d rather not see nor talk to one period! Honestly, though.
I never did anything at all with Charley. We just talked as friends, but I did say I liked him. He tried to be friends with me after we argued, it’s just that, it was too weird and awkward for me. I can’t keep in contact with him. It sucks because I think we both need more friends and only talk to barely any other people at all. I think that’s why he sometimes called me out of the blue after I thought he would have forgotten about me. Then one day, his wife called me for no good reason, actually. I could have been friends with her, too, since I need to hang out with more women instead of mostly men all the time, it’s just that the situation was SO weird. She wasn’t malicious in her phone call, she actually sounded like a decent person. I know she was about to ask me a question but I wasn’t going to let her finish her question and hung up on her. That call sent me a friendly reminder that there are some deal breakers I should keep: Do not date someone who has to keep in contact with his ex and/or with children. I will make no exceptions ever again, no matter how ambitious a man is.
Charley was a man who had huge tattoos all over his arms and didn’t seem like a father figure at all: SO wrong for me. Some people think I was a huge college partier and I’m like, NOPE! I’ve only been to three or four parties tops in my life, mostly working. I used to go out sometimes in college, but not that much. I’m glad I didn’t have anything with Charley because I met the most amazing man for me after Charley. Although it is long distance, my friends are keeping their fingers crossed that it will work out with Travis and me. I am hoping so, too.